How Women View Men

There is one basic truth about women that all men need to know. The truth is that women don’t (or can’t) view men the same way that men think they do.

Inexperienced and naive men project their desires for love and affection onto women and falsely believe that they want the same thing. Whereas a man sees a woman as an object for love and sex—sometimes even going as far as putting her on a pedestal—a woman sees a man differently. She sees a man in terms of what he can do for her and what value he holds for her. Men are but a tool or a utility to be used for her purposes.

Whereas a man devotes himself to a woman by offering her his love, support, and protection, a woman is not capable of reciprocating in kind. This is apparent by the fact that men are willing to sacrifice themselves to save women while the reverse almost never happens. Women are only capable of extending such generosity towards their own children.

Women see men in terms of what he can offer her. He is a means to an end. When a man loves a woman, he is committed to her; when a woman loves a man, she is merely expressing her dependence for the value he provides. For this reason, woman will readily leave a man once he is no longer able to provide value for her or if she is able to secure a man of higher value.

Women view and judge men according to the different areas of value which they are capable of providing for. The list below is by no means exhaustive, but it summarizes the major areas of value that modern women expect to derive from men. Most men are usually capable of providing for more than one type of value as these roles are not always mutually exclusive. Men are also easily capable of gaining or losing their ability to provide these specific values. They are ordered from the most to least valuable with the first four creating attraction and the last two representing values that are derived from low status men.

1) Resource Provider

First, women value men for the material support they can provide for her. She is, essentially, biologically hard-wired to select a man who is best able to obtain resources for her and her children. For a woman, attracting a man and getting him to commit to her is the same as securing and extracting resources—it’s an act of investment.

Although this is the most important value that a man can provide for a woman, if a woman is able to provide for herself, her attraction for men in general will wane while further affluence will raise her standards to heights that will leave her perpetually dissatisfied.

In spite of being the area of primary importance for women, marriage based solely on a man’s ability to provide materially and financially is a house built on sand. These marriages lead to unhappiness for both man and woman, and unsurprisingly, will start to cause conflict that often end with divorce.

2) Anchor

Women value men in terms of how dependable and strong they are for her to lean on. This is probably the closest a woman will get to what many men think is her capacity for love. Woman longs to depend on a strong man who will act as an anchor and be a stabilizing force in her life. She wants to be led and guided by a man with a mission of his own. This is a man who is in control of himself and his environment. Many women, in fact, consciously and unconsciously crave to be dominated by a strong man who will control her. It is for this reason alone that women are repulsed by supplicating men who try to reverse the role by placing the woman above him to be his anchor—a role that he should be in charge of. Why should she be the one to provide value for him?

This also explains why women are attracted to men who exhibit the dark triad traits of being narcissistic, manipulative, and psychopathic even though they lack the stability that women claim to desire. This is because they are attracted to these men’s self-centered egotism and pursuit of power, which they know won’t be swayed by an external force—such as the woman herself.

3) Entertainment

Women value men for their entertainment value. This entertainment value comes in two forms: fun and thrill. With fun, she is the queen and he is the jester for her amusement. He is the playful monkey that occupies her attention to stave off boredom. If he manages to be more entertaining than her smartphone, then he is considered to have an attractive personality to her. Other men who refuse to play the clown are appalled by how receptive women become to those who do, but their envy is a testament of how effective the clown game is.

With thrill, the man merely needs to live a life of adventure and excitement. It’s not necessary for him to directly provide the woman with the experience of thrill, since she merely needs to be in his presence to feel it. Thrill also comes in the form of a physically attractive man who excites the female senses. These men provide sexual entertainment for her that most other men can’t.

4) Status

Women see high value man as a status symbol. We already know that women love to surround themselves with objects that embellish their looks and status to feed their vanity. Women spend large amounts of their time and money on cosmetics, designer clothes, jewelries, and other luxury items to flaunt their status. For the same reason, they like to have a high status man with the above mentioned traits to be their partner. A highly prized man that inspires envy in other women is the ultimate symbol of status for her. That being said, the man doesn’t necessarily have to possess any real value to achieve the status of being desired by women, being famous alone is enough to attract women through social proofing. This is how actors, athletes, musicians, and even serial killers are able to court attention from their female admirers.

5) Validation

Women use men as a source of self-validation. Young women today use social media to court attention from vast number of men to feel like a celebrity without having to accomplish anything. They love to feed on men’s adulation not because they are interested in pursuing relationship with them, but because they like to have their sense of self-importance inflated beyond their real value. For a woman, any man who provides validation for her is of low status. She understands well that only a man who has nothing else to offer her will resort to showering her with attention, compliments, and presumptuous assistance to attract her. She will simply take what is offered and slip away. She wants to avoid giving any false hopes to these men in fear of having them pester her for something more.

6) Friend

Women see men they associate with, but have no intention of having romantic or sexual relations as ‘friends’. Male friends can provide a woman with emotional support, attention, and validation without her having to give anything away. They are the ‘nice guys’ who offer women thankless services. By their nature, men who readily befriend women are weak, emasculated, and supplicant. The male friend often seeks to gradually improve his status to become her romantic partner, but it is far too late for him. As soon as a woman categorizes a man as a friend, his chance of becoming anything more is quite slim, that is, unless he is able to transform himself into a completely different man with high status while her value drops with age. Because male friends are reliable source of her many needs, but not valuable enough to be her lover, the woman must ensure that none of these men try to crawl out of the so-called friendzone and make things complicated for her. If they should fail to provide value or if they start to demand something in return, these male friends can be easily discarded by women for women have no sense of loyalty.

Worthless

Women see all other men that do not belong in the above categories as being worthless. They provide no value for the woman, so they may as well not exist. They are the invisible non-entities that drift around her while she goes about living her life. These men only become visible for a brief moment when they are needed to provide a simple service for her. Many of these weak men who constantly seek female approval will be more than glad to step in to be the knight in shining armour. He secretly hopes that he can become someone to be cherished by her, but she simply does not care. To a woman, once this man has completed his services, he belongs back in the ‘worthless’ category. In spite of this, these men continue to behave the same way as before and provide services for women to enjoy the minuscule pleasure of being visible for a brief moment. When not being of service, these men are nothing but nuisance with their desperate attempts to become visible to women. Women simply do not want to be bothered into acknowledging that these men even exist. They just shoo these types of men away like they would with flies. Women prefer that these men remain invisible and out of their lives. Any man who fails to do so can easily be shamed and controlled into withdrawing by labelling him as a “creep.”

Here, a vital truth is revealed: Women do not care about…

How deeply a man is in love with her.

How intelligent and cultured he is.

How nice and polite of a gentleman he is.

How sensitive and caring he is.

How much effort he makes to show his devotion to her.

How much he values and respects her.

How much he has done for her in the past.

How much sacrifice he is willing to make for her in the future.

And so on.

If anything, many of these characteristics are bound to repulse women as it demonstrates signs of weakness and neediness.

There are also demographic variations you should be aware of. Women of traditional and Eastern cultures tend to be more drawn towards men’s ability to provide resources than their Western counterparts. Younger Western women are mainly drawn to the entertainment value in men until they become old and start looking for a high-status man to marry. Much of the popular axioms regarding modern relationships (e.g. gold diggers, assholes get all the girls, nice guys finish last, being friendzoned, alpha fucks and beta bucks, etc.) make sense without contradictions when you consider all the social and demographic factors and the different areas of attraction that women have for men.

Much of the misguided men’s failures to attract women comes down to the discrepancy between what these men think women want and what women actually want. Men must throw away all the outdated and childish notions of love they saw on television and films as boys. They must come to terms with the realities of modern sex relations as a first step towards leading a healthier and more successful relationship with women.

If you liked this article, read ‘Man’s Fight for Existence‘ to learn the truth about masculinity and the modern world that we live in.

44 thoughts on “How Women View Men

  1. I do find it sad that most will not agree that women view men as disposable resources and utilities.
    Only recently did point 5 hit home to me. Long time “friends” of mine cut off ties with me after I got a gf. I never ever realized I was merely a validation horse in their stable of men. I thought we were friends, but they just wanted me for whatever utility they could get. And if they can’t get resources from me any longer then I am disposable.

  2. There is a lot of truth in your article — but I think it relates more to modern western women. The women who have difficult upbringings – maybe from poor or war torn countries, – and women with religious back grounds and especially women who had good healthy relations with their Fathers, tend to be more balanced.

    • If I may…
      Like someone you have just met–no matter how long you get to know her: In fact, even if you are married to her for 20 years. This way there is a perpetual give and take relationship that doesn’t accrue with dependencies. I did this for 10 years of marriage and it worked just fine; and after a decade I decided she had to go when that “first feeling” was no longer felt. We separated amicably and I never saw her again. Funny, we lived in Europe for a while, traveled all over together, and had some great times; we buried parents together and were quite close. But I never got too deep and neither did she. It was thoroughly “modern,” and, as arranged, it went away without a regret…

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  3. How do you know how women view men? Did you interview women? Sounds like you have had some selfish women in your life. What was your mother like?

  4. I came to the conclusion after my last relationship that men are seen as accessories by a lot of women. They learn to catch the highest value man they can but have no clue how to maintain and strengthen a relationship. Anything starting with one sided thinking is doomed to fail. When the accessory no longer pleases she will tire of it and look for the next one.

  5. I keep running into women who self-describe as non-orgasmic during partner sex. I find it easy to falsify that hypothesis, and by doing so become their absolutely favorite toy.

    I love how *happy* sex makes women. I can’t make them see me as a relationship possibility, but I *can* make them cum.

    Try it. *They* will like it!

  6. I recently had a 38 yo woman tell me (46yo man) that the young guys don’t know any better (in terms of not to get married)

  7. Also women bond very closely with other women , women FAR prefer other female company over male , this article is correct , men are merely disposable utilities to women. The brave Ester Villar in the ” Manipulated Man ” warned men they were being used , a woman will NEVER love them & also stated women are not keen on sex ( obviously !! ) , sex is a tool to manipulate men , she merely grudgingly tolerates intercourse with the inferior man.

    • Women love sex with an alpha male. You know when you often get asked the question ‘where have you been all my life?’ you are doing something right. And believe me, it ain’t being a girly man that gets me asked that question. My most recent encounter resulted from only one question, concerning interest in orgasm 3 times in one night. I didn’t even ask her name until we arrived at my house. Women do follow the 5 catagories above, but they really do love being made love to the right way.

  8. It’s simple biology. As women we are adaptable to the environment. You can only be rightfully angry with the media and feminism for turning things upside down. As women we nearly worship men we respect but these days, idk if it is how we have been trained to view men or if men have really fell from grace but their isn’t much to respect about men anymore. Biology is not here to be kind and understanding. It’s here to help us procreate and etc. we can only respond accordingly. So to say a woman doesn’t deserve a man that works to become “high value” in the eyes of women, is completely incorrect. Long ago, & in other country women are still the same. They just have more to respect and they NEED more from men and this reflects in their responses and behavior towards men. It’s not that they are any better. When a woman is provided for she has the ability to cut off all outside men. However today we provide for ourselves so we may feel we don’t need relationships as much. Long ago when a man was a good provider, & a woman could trust him as a anchor of dependability and strength, she saw no other need for other men. It’s biology, don’t despise biology, despise media and the weakening of male testosterone thru certain foods being fed to the masses. As a woman, hormonally I cannot force myself to be attracted to a man with low testosterone. I probably will be somewhat repulsed and not even have a clue as to why. Also men aren’t as hard workers or physical as they use to be so they don’t secrete the same animalistic body chemistry as they use to. It’s like no yin or yang anymore. So now as women do we have to comfort men and make everything all right for them? Wouldn’t that be counter productive. Everyone now days blames women for everything. We have no choice to feel as tho we must be the leaders. & we secretly resent men for this.

    • Read the entire comment Sabrina and agree 1000%. The direction in relationships from the 60’s to this day has been a sinister deliberate agenda implemented by Western society. There is a young man on YouTube he calls himself Young Pharoah and he speaks on the behalf of the black race. His massages are powerful and honest he explains how western society teaches men to devalue women but especially the black woman. To understand what young Pharoah speaks about you’d probably need to watch some of the videos. Trust me it’s not a race thing it’s totally about respect and placing value in the proper hands of the woman. This world is very double standard, reversed and turned totally upside down. Biology as you said is the law of nature… GMO engineered food supply has poisoned humanity as a whole. We are now modern day zombies walking the earth without a true goal only just to get what we can out of one another but that plan is unsuccessful. Thanks for your honest comment Sabrina!

  9. Men are so whiny now days, they even whine on social media, then they go and have a pity party and indulge in porn then they create “he man women hater groups”, then they start with the “I know you are but what am I rants”, they make no real Change in society, they are afraid to fight for hanged or fight to protect their women and children, they find little value in women beside sex or being their to wipe their tears, they don’t have the emotional strength behind them to calm a woman’s emotions, they bi Ch about paying on a first date or showing chilvary, they gossip and watch reality tv, they are afraid of being head of household while resenting a woman making the most money. Western men are as bad off as western women. & if men are to be the leaders, it’s not the women’s fault. And if you despise the idea of men being in the lead then why do you want all of this kingly treatment from women. Wake the heck up guys! 🙁

  10. Men want sex, respect and power. Women want to be provided for, birth children to continue society or the mans legacy. It’s actually the laws of nature but weak western men are so much more emotional than women that they cannot see the nature order of relationships and now they are crying and making MGTOW groups. Seriously guys get your testosterone levels check. American men have such extremely low levels of testosterone that it makes them cranky like women and they even lose their foresight

  11. What a load of bullsh*t. The ONLY things I care about are how much a man loves me, how good a person he is and how he treats me. Period. In my experience, men seem to LIKE awful women, and only use good women for a sexual conquest, while lying and claiming to be in love.

    • The same can be said about women. They know they have plenty of options out there and due to hypergamy, they always aim to score a better man than they already have. This has resulted in disloyalty, bastard children, and countless resources, being spent on women. You think women don’t cheat? You think that women don’t go for awful men who are bastards? Stop being a hypocrite.

      Women thrive the most when they are most desirable. They are literally like eggs surrounded by millions of spermcells, all of them desperately trying to get inside. Likewise in the real world, there are thousands of men who are competing for the same woman, and she holds all the power in granting 1 or maybe 5 or 10, depending on how hypergamous she is to enter her.

      Dating a woman nowadays feels like paying a full price for a used car that’s traveled 200 000 miles, and is being sold as a new one, due to a fresh paint job, even though the car has been leased for free to 100s of men previously.

    • Too classic. Sounds like you’re still thinking about the one(s) who used you for sex and lied about being in love…

  12. Hi Corey, love your work!

    Warning this comment is rather long

    I have read this and 7 traits men find attractive, as well as almost every article about women on return of kings. When I first read all of that red-pill stuff it really hurt…but it was a necessary realisation. Most women in the west including myself have been disfigured, emotionally and spiritually, and although I am young and could still turn it around – it is painful to think about what has been lost.

    My entire life I have thought in my head that I love and treasure the men around me…yet I constantly hurt them with my reckless behaviour. My actions have almost consistently played out in a way that proves everything in your article about women’s biology.

    Despite all of this I know…I want to bless the men around me! There must be a way for women to re-wire their tendency to be endlessly self-involved – or at least master those tendencies – to become the women they are supposed to be. Women that hold their families and communities together rather than ripping them apart.

    When observing muslim culture, you can see that they get it. Their culture will most likely never die, as they have cultivated attitudes that shame female promiscuity and praise traditional femininity. Their women are trained from birth to think of their family, treasure family ties, contribute to their community, to respect their men, and take care of themselves. Although I thank my lucky stars I wasn’t born into such an oppressive culture with little freedom, I am envious of the benefits that a lot of those women enjoy due to the strong masculine rule over their society.

    I wish it was possible give complete freedom to both genders in a society and still enjoy the near perfect harmony between them that more strict cultures enjoy.

    Here are some of the ways I think women in western culture could reclaim their femininity:

    1. Realise that beauty is power. Stop being upset by men constantly expecting you to be pretty/seeing you as beautiful above everything else. If you are upset, it may be because you know you are not presenting as beautifully as you could due to your terrible lifestyle choices.

  13. Wow. Some one has mommy issues. Lol. What romance movies do young boys watch? Lies!!! Young girls only care about love. When you talk about women, you talk about hurt and ruined girls. and guess who ruined them???? Young girls don’t value money because they have parents and daddys and uncles and brothers. Young boys have no concept of love or REAL loyalty and men have even less. They actually think loyalty is returning home after cheating on their wife. Hilarious. But the wife could never cheat and come home and STILL be considered loyal. And one of your FIRST sentences said ” …men see women as objects of …”. OBJECTS! To use. People, regardless of what the relationship, serve a purpose for other people. The point is to use people positively which adds to their self value and not detracts it. There are bad women and bad men. But women, by far, are more caring and giving. Men don’t even have half of the categories of “use” for women as we do. And that says a lot! You’re either a woman he’s banging, wants to bang, won’t bang.

  14. As a women I can say this is totally untrue for me. I am with a guy who does not offer any of the above and yet I love him. I love him because he is kind, sensitive and has integrity…the sexiest qualities in the entire world! Perhaps shallow women are after validation and material goods. I get that for myself…don’t need anyone to provide them for me.

  15. from experience i have witnessed personaly,women only truley want a man if there being smacked around/beat up by him its really sad those are the guys that can get and keep a women around,its sad but true that nice guys will always finish last,i wish i had realized that years ago before being used and thrown away by countless females!
    id also like to add that a woman is quick to use a mans children as a weapon and wield that weapon with 0 regard for the man she once proclaimed to love or the children whose life shes shattering!women love/care for no one saveone themselves,they can say all day oh i love my children with all my being,really so thats why you use them as a weapon to destroy the lives of not only the father but the children as well,in reality females care about 1 thing only themselves and they go around talking about ohhhh ive been hurt so many times and used for sex ect what a pack of liesss,its better to always tell the truth than to spare the feelings of someone because in the long run the lies cause soo much more pain and grief than the truth ever could!

  16. The women who have experienced the power of attraction will wield it mightily until its power is depleted. Pretty girls seem to find out early how to open doors with just a smile. At first, attraction is effortless; men will swarm to youth and inexperience (or perceived same) without so much as a dab of lipstick or even a fully developed body.
    Similarly, men of material wealth or physical presence can turn away women who could potentially make them happy through a shared interest or just by being naturally agreeable.
    Everybody keeps a running score on whom they are physically attracted, gives them a rank, and likewise gives a rank to the people they meet with similar attributes.
    This is the base rank on the Y axis.
    We then keep an eye out for any hidden character attributes we find especially appealing to us (humor, kindness, tolerance for errors in judgment, etc.), and that adjusts their rank on the Z axis.
    Then, we try to ascertain their attraction to us – the X axis – the part that’s actually fun.
    This is flirting.
    If we have honestly decided we desire them – we just want to see how much they desire us.
    Unless we are rejected immediately, it’s fun and exciting, but it can be hellish if the object of our desire is not sincere. The merciful indifferent ignore us completely and euthanize our illusion of hope (see: ache of pursuing truth below).
    But, if our potential mates value us for the attributes we value in ourselves, we are ecstatic!
    Far too often, a fatal flaw in character is concealed; whether due to insecurity, fear, etc., such that the other person is giving a false representation to feed an insidious need. If revealed, it would make this person highly unattractive, causing their perceived market value to plummet. They profess their desire (which is often strong) by affirming those attributes which they do not truly value. They are lying – possibly even to themselves – but it cannot be sustained indefinitely.
    When you misrepresent yourself, whether intentionally or not, you are doing damage.
    When you fail to do the work necessary to reveal misrepresentation in others because you are too naive, lazy, or desperate to seek the truth, you are doing damage.
    You can have a varied and exciting sex life if you choose to lie and believe lies (which is a lie to yourself), but it will never become any deeper, because you will never know either yourself OR the other person.
    Live alone for a while. Find out who you are. Your bullshit detector will become finely tuned.
    The dull ache of pursuing the truth alone is insignificant compared to the deep anguish over the time and energy lost pursuing an illusion of love.

  17. LOL. My experience is women desire you more when they’re afraid you’re just going to walk away. When they tantalize you by threatening to walk away, that’s a power play. They want to make you beg and crawl and do their bidding which is exactly what you should not do. Just look up from your book and tell them to close the door quietly on their way out as you’re getting to the good bit.

    Meanwhile, prepare for a breakup… Photograph EVERY prescription they have ever had, write in a journal every time they get drunk or break something. Wheel that out if you get into a divorce and the Judge will look very poorly on them.

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